After I decided to quit a job, I got so many cheering words from my coworkers. Those words are encouraging me.
However it was not only encouraging words but also uncomfortable and unbelievable words coming to my ears.
Here is the words from ignorant and miserable person sprinkling on me.
“So, you are giving up on life as woman”
He is about 47 years old and has a wife and a daughter.
“If my daughter start saying that she is going to quit job and start university in your age, I will halt her so hard. I cannot believe that actually your parents allow you to decide the decision.”.
That was way below my expectation. I felt like he is from the era which dinosaurs walking around…
Then I thought how did 47 years passed in front of him.
I am 29 years old and he lives about 20 years longer than me and still he is living so small world.
There are huge mistakes in his words:
1. 29 years old is the age to make her decision on her own.
2. Going university or not marrying at age 29 doesn’t mean that she is not living her life as woman.
First, When I turned into 20 years old, my father told me
“From now on you are the one who decide which choices you are gonna take. I can give you an advice but I am not the one who makes choices.”
This is about having responsibility for your life. This is about who control the ship and who are on the ship. Who is the captain of the ship.
Second, there is no definition of what women’s life should be or what men’s life should be. We all have choices to live our own life. The way I chose is according to the definition of my life. I am not giving up on anything.
Maybe the definition of his life is to have wife who doesn’t work and stay house for him and daughter who does not want to decide her life and want her father to decide everything.
If he has what he wants then good for him, but it doesn’t mean that everyone in this world has exactly same definition of life.
I was astonished to hear such words from man with age 47.